Parental Control for the Internet and Cell Phones

Today's teens, tweens, and school age children are getting more and more technologically sophisticated, very often outpacing what their parents know about these high-tech gadgets.

While for some kids that actually means that they are learning computer languages, creating websites, and even building robots, most others are simply using today's technology to watch videos on YouTube and play MMORPGs (massively multiplayer online role-playing games) or they are talking on their cell phones and sending text messages.

Unfortunately, many of the things your kids can do online and with their cell phones can lead to a lot of trouble if they aren't monitored. From watching porn and other inappropriate video and websites to sexting (sending inappropriate text messages or photographs) and chatting with predators, new technology can lead to new problems. Cell phones and the internet have even lead to new ways for kids to be bullied -- cyberbullying.

That doesn't have to mean that your kids can't have a computer or cell phone, but you should learn about parental controls that can help protect them as they use the latest high-tech gadgets.

Parental Controls
Parental controls can include built-in parental control software, add-on monitoring software, web content filtering software, and internet blockers. These can usually be set up to block access to a computer or specific websites.

One big problem with parental controls is that many parents only think about setting them up on their home computers, where they know their kids will have access to the internet, but they forget about all of the other gadgets in and around their home that also offer internet access.

While we might not live in an age where everyone's refrigerator has internet access (some already do though), many other gadgets can get your child connected to the Internet, such as their:
  • iPod Touch (via WiFi)
  • iPhone and other smart phones
  • Nintendo DS and Nintendo DS Lite (via WiFi)
  • Nintendo Wii
  • Sony Playstation 3
  • Sony PSP (via WiFi)
That can be fun, offering kids access to online games and multiplayer online gaming, but it also allows them to chat with people and many include a web browser. Although parental controls are available for most of these devices, the average parent who doesn't use the device himself isn't likely to think about turning those controls on.

Before getting one of these devices that is Internet-ready or hooking up an Internet-ready gaming system to your home Internet network, be sure you know how to turn on any available parental controls.

Internet Parental Controls
Parental control software is built in the latest version of Mac OS X and Windows, but can also be purchased as separate programs, which often offer more features and more flexibility. These include programs such as Bsafe Online, Net Nanny and Safe Eyes.

In addition to this kind of parental control software, other things you can do to keep your kids safe online include:
  • putting password protection on the computer, so that you have to log your kids on when they want to use the Internet
  • using parental control software to restrict access to the computer and internet to times when a parent is home and around to supervise what your kids are doing
  • if you use a router to share internet access through the house, then set it up to restrict access to times when a parent is home to supervise, or use your router to set up specific internet application and gaming access to different computers or internet-ready gaming systems
  • set strong privacy settings if your child uses a social networking site, like Facebook, and limit their friends list to people they know
  • putting the computer and other devices that have internet access in a common area of the house, so that you can directly supervise what your kids are doing
  • asking your Internet service provider (ISP) about additional filtering software that may be available to you
  • being aware that without parental controls, kids can hide their tracks by clearing private data from the Internet browser they are using, including the browsing history, cache and cookies
  • reviewing what kind of access to the Internet your kids will have when visiting friends and family members
In addition to general warnings about protecting kids from "the Internet," parents should be aware about some specific things that can cause trouble, including:
  • Illegal File Sharing Programs - through specific programs and sites, such as Gnutella, Bit Torrent and Kazaa, etc., kids illegally download music, movies and other content.
  • Social Network Sites - many kids use these sites, such as Facebook and MySpace, to post personal information and photos, which predators can use to contact your child.
  • IM and Chat - in addition to texting on their cell phones, many kids use Instant Messaging and Chat Rooms (iChat, AOL, Yahoo Messenger, etc.) to talk with their friends, and unfortunately, sometimes predators who pose as kids. Inappropriate chats can be an especially big problem in MMORPGs, where many players are in their twenties and thirties.
  • Video Chat - kids have also started using video chat rooms more and more, including the popular Chatroulette, which matches users with strangers to chart with and is reported to include a lot of people engaged in inappropriate behaviors while on their webcams.
  • Web Videos - kids on the Internet usually quickly find YouTube. Unfortunately, there are plenty of videos on YouTube and other video sites that are not appropriate for kids.
Cell Phone Parental Controls
Although much of the focus concerning internet dangers has been on computers, few parents seem to realize that many of today's cell phones are basically mini-computers when it comes to the kind of access they provide to the internet. Take, for example, the iPhone, which includes an e-Mail application, web browser, and an application to watch videos on YouTube. Kids can also use it to send text messages, take and send each other photos, and of course, talk.

How do you supervise and protect your kids when they are using a 'smart phone,' especially when it has access to the internet?

The first thing you should do is learn how to turn on and use what ever parental controls are included with the cell phone, however limited they may be. This might include parental control software that is actually part of the cell phone and others that can be added as features of your cell phone carrier.

AT&T, for example, offers a 'Smart Limits for Wireless Parental Controls' feature for an extra $4.99 a month that allows you to restrict when a phone can be used, block or allow certain numbers that your child can send/receive calls and text messages to and from, and restrict inappropriate content, etc. This service doesn't work with the iPhone though, which includes its own parental control software.

Verizon (Verizon Usage Controls and Content Filters), T-Mobile (Family Allowances and Web Guard), and other cell phone carriers offer similar services.

Many cell phone carriers also have services to let you locate your child at any time if they have a supported phone. For example, the Verizon Family Locator service (formerly called Chaperone) will let you view your child's location and can even send you a text message when they arrive or leave a certain location, such as school or a friend's house. AT&T (AT&T Family Map) and Sprint (Sprint Family Locator) offer similar services.

Did you know that you can monitor your teen's text messages too?

While there is mobile spy software that you can secretly install on your child's iPhone or Windows mobile based smart phone, such as Mobile Spy, that monitor text messages and phone calls, cell phone carriers don't provide this service themselves, no matter what some parents may report. SMobile Parental Controls is another program that can monitor what your child is doing with his phone, including allowing you to view your teen's pictures, text messages, emails, and location, etc.

Spying on your kids is very rarely a good idea though, and if you use this type of software, you should actually let your teen know that you might be reading some of his texts or emails as a condition of having the phone. If you don't trust your child to use his phone, then he either shouldn't have a phone, you should turn off the cell phone's internet access or ability to send text messages, or get him a basic phone that doesn't have these types of features until he earns your trust.

Best Parental Control
Unfortunately, no matter how secure you have your home computer, cell phones, and other gadgets that can access the internet, you might not always know what your kids have access to when they aren't at home. I wouldn't let my kids get 'Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 2,' a video game with a Mature rating, because in addition to all of the violence, they can hear the in-game chat with bad language and crude comments. However, I soon found that just about all of their friends had it, so it was hard to keep them from getting access to it.

Another time I found that even though a friend my oldest son was visiting had good parental controls on their home computer, one of that kid's friends didn't, and that unrestricted access to the internet had allowed his friend to see and hear things that we would never dream of letting our kids see.

So of course, the best parental controls are an active parent that teaches their kids about the dangers of new technologies and who is aware of what they are doing. In both of the above situations, since we had talked about not being allowed to play games that were rated 'M' and about inappropriate websites, they turned to another activity and let me know what happened.

Before getting your kids a smart phone that allows them to send and receive email, texting, or gives them access to the internet, be sure to:
  • talk to them in an age-appropriate manner about things that can get them in trouble, including a discussion of sexting, viewing inappropriate websites, photos, and videos, and the possibility that people they chat with online may not be who they seem, and then continue to have conversations about these topics and ask your kids questions about what they are doing online from time to time
  • set up your parental controls, but then continue to supervise your kids, especially younger kids, as they use their cell phone and computer
  • remind your kids that many things they see on the internet aren't true
  • as your tween or teen gets more independent, remind him to talk to you if he views something on the internet that confuses him or just doesn't seem right
  • teach your kids to not post too much personal information about themselves or their activities online, including places like Facebook, since this information will rarely stay private
  • have them use screen names that don't include their real name, email address, age, or other identifying information
  • warn them about cyberbullying, harassing others online, spreading rumors, or impersonating other kids to send hurtful text messages or emails
  • only allow your kids to use age-appropriate web sites and games, for example, Facebook requires kids to be at least 13 years old to register, and many of the popular games that young kids like to play that allow internet access are rated 'T' for Teen or 'M' for Mature and should only be played by adults
  • encourage RL (real life) activities and limit screen time (which should include time watching TV, using a computer, playing video games, or using an iPod, cell phone, or other media device) to no more than one or two hours a day, as internet activities can be quite addicting
Source: About.com

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